In every relationship, there are highs and lows.
That’s a given.
What’s not as clearly drawn out, however, is when to decide whether or not a relationship is worth maintaining when those inevitable lows come around.
While “love at first sight” is not something that everyone experiences, you should at least go into a relationship feeling confident and/or hopeful, rather than hesitant. Having blatant doubts even before a relationship begins is a recipe for trouble.
On the other side of the romantic spectrum, once you and your partner have gotten to know each other on a deeper level and have mutually expressed commitment to each other, it’s vital to consider fixing problems rather than running away from them.
It’s easier to try to escape issues than face them, and even in more serious relationships – marriage included – we often tend to include a “side-door exit” to the commitment.
Although American divorce rates have slightly declined since the 1980s, according to The State Of Our Unions 2011 via ForYourMarriage.org, they are still nearly twice what they were in 1960.
Granted, it can be a case-by-case basis when discussing relationships.
Relationships can often be measured on a 50-50 scale, as in both sides of the relationship must usually invest as much as the other for there to be true satisfaction. Of course, that’s not always the case, and it’s virtually impossible to maintain, but if one person is clearly showing more concern for the relationship than the other, there are bound to be some types of issues.
However, if the relationship is not only deemed serious but also treated as such, there has to be some kind of understanding as far as when it is and is not OK to “give up.” Without that understanding, either one partner is inevitably and eventually going to leave the relationship, or problems will go unaddressed.
Commitment is not a term that should be used lightly in relationships. It’s hard to commit to sticking together through the highs and lows if you’re only just getting started with a relationship.
But then again, if you reach a point that you know your partner is worth fighting for, the best thing you can do for yourself and your relationship is strive for working through problems rather than discarding the relationship altogether.